So I was out studying with my friend MW. After awhile, we were having a conversation about relationships and dating and he mentioned that after talking to another friend, he was curious about this pressure that girls were feeling. In layman’s terms, he didn’t get it. So in layman’s terms, I began to explain what these girls were talking about when they talk about the “pressure.”
So for females, it’s all a biological, reproductive thing. At 35, our bodies begin to slow down, bearing children is no longer as easy as it was when we were say, 25. So to be able to get to that point, a woman needs to get married around 30, so that she can have a couple of years with the hubbie, and maybe even [spew] out a kid or two. So in order for that to happen, she will have already dated the person for over a year (because really who marries a person without dating them for a year nowadays) and have waited another year while engaged to save up for that “dream” wedding which means that means that she needs to be on the verge of a long term relationship by the time she’s like 27 or 28. And we ALL know that ain’t happening for me – and I’m completely fine with that. Men are trouble, with a capital R.
There are those of you who are like, well, aren’t there medical advances these days? Women are having babies when they are older – look at Nicole Kidman (who’s in her 40s!). Yes, that is true, but seriously? Who wants to be an old mom? I would like to be a young mom. Men drool at the MILF’s, so why wouldn’t you want to be married to a MILF? So men, in order to have young hot mothers, you need to marry young hot ladies – like those in their late 20s.
I read an article that explored the idea that men aren’t afraid of commitment or marriage; in fact, they are more scared of the idea that they will have a bad marriage. Women on the other hand, jump right into it and are willing to make things work – even when the going gets really tough. We just don’t like to give up. What do you guys think?
p.s. When I say men or women, I realize it’s a complete generalization and I don’t mean to say ALL men or women act a certain way, I’m sure there are always the exception to the rule.
i personally have chosen to ignore the pressure altogether and just roll my eyes when my grandparents/aunts/uncles all ask when i’m getting married aka spewing out little babies for them to oodle over. however, s. zi once said that it’s a city vs. suburbs thing. in that city girls are more career focused and that’s the pressure they concentrate on whereas girls from suburbs are more family oriented and that’s where their pressure comes from. se la vie is what I say. just live your life day to day fulfilling your own desires and passions. is there any other way to live?
And that Joann, is why I love you. C’est la vie! I am in NO HURRY and happy to be that way.